North Mondays Series – Episode 149

A few years ago, someone introduced me to a senior executive at an event. We spoke briefly, less than ten minutes. There was no long pitch, no dramatic moment, just a genuine conversation. Months later, when an opportunity came up, he reached out and said, “I remember how you think. Let’s talk.”

That moment reinforced something powerful, people may forget what you said, but they rarely forget how you made them feel and who you showed yourself to be. That’s the essence of Relationship Positioning. It’s not about being the loudest voice in the room. It’s about building presence, influence, and long-term relevance in the minds of the people who matter.

Let’s explore what that really means.

Why Relationship Positioning Matters

In a fast-moving world filled with endless introductions, visibility alone is no longer enough. What matters is how you are remembered after the moment has passed.

Relationship Positioning helps you:

Build lasting impressions, not temporary attention
Strengthen your professional identity
Create trust that outlives individual interactions
Position yourself for future opportunities
Develop influence without force

Reflection Question:
When people leave a conversation with you, what stays with them?

Presence as the Foundation of Relationship Positioning

Presence is more than physical attendance. It is the energy, clarity, and intentionality you bring into interactions.

Strong presence means:

Listening fully, not waiting to speak
Engaging with genuine curiosity
Communicating clearly and calmly
Showing confidence without arrogance
Being intentional about how you contribute

Practical Example:
Two people attend the same meeting.
One speaks constantly to impress.
The other speaks thoughtfully to add value.

Months later, only one is remembered.

Presence is felt more than it is seen.

Influence Grows Through Relationship Positioning

Influence is not built overnight. It grows through consistent positioning over time.

Relationship Positioning strengthens influence when:

Your actions align with your words
Your contributions are meaningful
Your reputation becomes associated with value
People trust your perspective
Your name carries credibility

Influence is not about controlling people.
It is about earning their confidence.

Ask yourself:
What do people associate with your name?

Long-Term Relevance Is Built Intentionally

Being remembered is not about one moment. It is about sustained relevance.

Long-term relevance grows when you:

Continue developing your knowledge and perspective
Stay connected without being intrusive
Show growth and evolution
Remain aligned with your values
Contribute meaningfully over time

Relevance is not maintained by visibility alone.
It is maintained by continued value.

The Difference Between Visibility and Positioning

Many people chase visibility. Few focus on positioning.

Visibility is being seen.
Positioning is being remembered.

Visibility fades quickly.
Positioning compounds over time.

Relationship Positioning ensures that when opportunities arise, your name comes to mind naturally.

Not because you demanded attention.
But because you earned relevance.

How to Position Yourself to Be Remembered

Here is a simple framework.

1. Be Clear About Who You Are

Clarity strengthens identity.

What do you stand for?
What value do you bring?

Confusion weakens positioning.

2. Add Value in Every Interaction

Focus on contribution, not performance.

Share insight
Ask thoughtful questions
Support others’ progress

Value strengthens memory.

3. Follow Up and Stay Connected

Relationships fade without reinforcement.

A simple message can sustain relevance.

Consistency builds familiarity.

4. Build Credibility Through Action

Your work speaks louder than your words.

Deliver consistently.
Let your results reinforce your positioning.

5. Think Long Term

Positioning is not about immediate gain.

It is about future alignment.

Be patient.

Common Mistakes That Weaken Positioning

❌ Trying to impress instead of connect
❌ Being inconsistent in behavior
❌ Chasing attention without substance
❌ Neglecting relationships after initial contact
❌ Failing to follow through
❌ Prioritizing short-term visibility over long-term relevance

Positioning is built through consistency, not intensity.

Key Takeaways

Relationship Positioning determines how you are remembered.
Presence creates meaningful impressions.
Influence builds over time.
Long-term relevance strengthens opportunity.

Being remembered is not accidental.
It is intentional.

North Mondays Action Plan

Reflect on how you currently show up
Clarify the value you bring into relationships
Strengthen your listening and presence
Reconnect with someone meaningful this week
Deliver value consistently
Protect your credibility
Focus on long-term relevance

Reflection Prompt:
If someone described you in one sentence after meeting you, what would you want them to say?

Final Note

In the end, opportunities don’t remember resumes.
They remember people.

Relationship Positioning ensures that your presence, your contribution, and your character leave a lasting impression.

Because the real art is not just being noticed.
It is being remembered.